Yesterday, you read my review of the book Why God Matters: How to Recognize Him in Daily Life by Karina Lumbert Fabian and her father, Deacon Steven Lumbert. Today, I am honored to present the following post from Karina. This is one woman I know God has awesome plans for!
When You Get Mono of the Soul
By Karina Fabian
Author Karina Fabian
Have you ever had mono? I got it for the first time at 43, and while the adult version o f mononucleosis is not as extreme as the teenage version, it’s nonetheless draining my energy. Aside from the annoying mystery of how I got “the kissing disease” when the rest of my family is fine, is the fact that I have too much to do to give into the exhaustion. There’s no cure, so I try to take care of myself, offer my suffering up to God and press on. It got me thinking, though.
Can souls get mono?
I’ve heard the expression “a tired soul,” and we have all had those times when it seems like faith is just so much work. When that occasional tired feeling becomes malaise, isn’t that like mono of the soul?
How do we get it? Sin infected you? Satan’s trying to bring you down? Only God knows for certain. Just like with mono, there’s no prescription for a cure (though Divine Intervention is always God’s prerogative). But there are things we can do.
Spiritual food: the doctor warned me that mono would make my appetite go down but I had to make myself eat well. So, too, can “mono of the soul” make you not want spiritual food: prayer and worship (and for Catholics especially, the Sacrament of the Eucharist.) But these are vital if we’re going to stay spiritually healthy.
Rest: It’s a temptation to take on too much, to push too hard, to do-do-do and forget that sometimes, we are meant to receive just as we are meant to give. This is the time to receive. Ask others for help or prayers. Spend time in a place that gives you comfort. Find a light meditation or read something inspiring. Drop out of some activities, maybe in favor of finding something else that will nurture the soul. God calls us to be all things to all men, but that doesn’t have to mean all at the same time.
Offer it to God and push on. Just like in life, we can’t give up everything and throw the covers over our heads and sleep for two weeks, so we can’t give up on our relationship with God. The Catholic faith talks of offering our suffering to God; it’s something anyone can do. God, in His mercy, can take the sacrifices we make–in this case our suffering–and turn them into something wonderful, but we have to take the first step of giving them to Him.
Mono–physical or spiritual–stinks. But by placing our faith in God, we can survive it–and just think of how wonderful you’ll feel when you’re well again!
About Karina Fabian
Karina (Lumbert) Fabian was born into the Catholic faith, but truly grew to love it as an adult. As a busy mother of four, she finds some of her strongest encounters with God’s love happen in the ordinary events of the day-to-day. Karina started her writing career with diocesan newspapers but ahs settled into writing fun-filled fantasy and science fiction that nonetheless incorporates the principles of faith-filled living. Her web site is http://www.karinafabian.com/ and her blog is at http://fabianspace.blogspot.com.
June 18, 2010 -Posted by Lynn McMonigal | Authors, Books, Uncategorized | Christian Living, Christianity, Deacon Steven Lumbert, Karina Fabian, Why God Matters
Oh Karina, you poor thing – I can relate, I had mono 9 years ago and it really knocks you for a loop.
What a creative way to use your illness into a theme for your post. I think a lot of people are suffering from mono of the soul. You can see it in their eyes – the look of giving up and this is as good as it’s gonna get.
Your post inspires people to believe that there is more to life and to strive for it. As with anything else, you have to put in the (spiritual) work in order to see the results.
Comment by Nicole Langan | June 18, 2010 | Reply
Fortunately, I seem to be mostly over it now, which is good considering we’re in our new house, with all the painting, repairs, unpacking, etc. that go with it. What a feeling to wake up in the morning and actually *want* to wake up in the morning. Funny how you can take that feeling for granted until it’s gone. (Makes you appreciate sleeping in just for fun, too.)
My latest novel, Shattered, is now available! I am so excited. Of course, I get excited about each one of my books. Long ago, I heard someone compare the books she’d written to her children. That seems like a great analogy. I sure put about as much time into my books as I do my children. And I am proud of each. Like my children, I cannot choose a favorite book. I love each of them deeply, for different reasons. Of course, there is one thing that my books and my children share, a common thread of love between them all—each one is a little part of me.
Shattered is a story of forgiveness. Kerri Warner made a selfish choice years ago, one that she thought at the time was best for herself and for her young daughter. That one choice led to a lifetime of lies. It was worth it, though. At least Kerri thought it was. Until the day when she was forced to face the consequences for that choice and to really see for the first time what pain and hatred her lies had caused.
Forgiveness is not an easy thing for me. I’ve been hurt a lot in life. That has made me very defensive. When I meet you, I trust you—until you give me a reason NOT to trust you. And once that trust is broken, it is very hard to get it back. For example, there is a member of my family who has spent a lot of time in jail. He has stolen things from strangers and from me. He is not the kind of person that I want around my children. Recently, he was released from county jail. He told me that he wants to be a part of the family again, that he wants to make up for all of the bad things he has done. Do I trust him? Nope. He’s said this before and never changed anything. Do I want him around my children? Again, no. I really do not want my children to learn how to “be a man” from this particular person. Do I want to forgive him? Not a chance. But I know that I need to. I need to lean on God for the strength to forgive and move on. Writing this book helped me to understand that.
I think that we all could stand to learn a little about forgiveness. Is there an area in your life where forgiveness is warranted? Sign the guestbook this week and tell me about it. One person will win an autographed copy of Shattered just for sharing about forgiveness on the Lynn’s Corner Guestbook. Sign up before May 17 for your chance to win!